Divorce and Remarriage

I had my senior showcase yesterday and so I wasn't able to attend class. For that reason I'll just express some of my personal feelings on the topic. Honestly, divorce terrifies me. Of course I'm going into my marriage with the intention of being married for all eternity, however, you just never know what will happen. I guess the only thing I can control is my actions and decisions and make sure that I am never a justifiable reason to get divorced. It is so prevalent in our society, as if the commitment of marriage really doesn't have significant meaning. That is why i'm so grateful for our understanding of the gospel, and the eternal nature of our exhistence and the real purpose of life.

Parenting

Even though I am excited to be a parent some day it also really scares me. It his a huge responsibility. I remember the responsibility  I felt as a missionary.. sometimes it was overwhelming to me how much and with whom Heavenly Father trusted me. Their salvation- to an extent was in my hands. I think that feeling will only be magnified as a mom. From the time they enter this earth it will be my responsibility to love, teach, and guide them in righteousness. I think I'll be more aware then, than any other time what my weaknesses are.

Fathers

This week we talked about fathers and finance. When I was writing my fatherhood paper I realized how much I look up to my dad for the sacrifices he has made for my family. Even though he traveled a lot he did what it took to take care of our family. I was also interested in the article about women switching their mind for a mop. I graduate this semester with my bachelor's degree. My original plan was to go straight to grad school  and then start a full time career. Although that still sounds great I really would rather be a stay at home mom. I don't feel like that diminishes my education or knowledge in any way. It will just be used for a different purpose.

The Media

Yesterday in class it really stood out to me how much misscommunication comes through the form of media it is sent from. It happened just after class when I was texting my fiance. I wrote something as a joke and normally I would put a smiley face or something next to it so he would know I wasn't serious. Unfortunately, I forgot and so he thought I was seriously upset. It didn't take long to fix the situation but it was necessary none the less. I also see this in my family with sarcasm. Me and my brother Cody are both extremely sarcastic. I avoid using it around my sister Niki because she always takes it personally . My brother hasn't figured that out yet or maybe just doesn't care and he hurts her feelings all the time. It has caused numerous family arguments over the years and a lot of harbored anger. It's definitely something that could be worked on.

Oh no! Another crisis!

Today's class was on crisis in the family. It really just made me realize that situations can be a blessing in disguise and can often change people for the better. They seem really hard at the time- because they are- but in the end you can see how Heavenly Father blessed you. That really helped me because right now my family is struggling with quite a few different things that have seemed to tear everyone apart. It gives me hope that something positive will come from our struggles and experiences and we can be stronger because of them.

Intimacy in marriage

I always forget to post on here so this is for last week. Last week we talked about intimacy in marriage. Normally I would feel totally uncomfortable talking about it and especially writing about it but it I don't feel that way. The class was really good and talked about why it's important and it's role in the marriage. I thought it was interesting that men and women peak at different ages and how that can really affect the marriage in either a positive or a negative way.

Adjustments

This week in class my ears were definitely open. We were talking about the different adjustments that have to be made with marriage and when children are born. We talked for a while specifically about adjustments in the first few months of marriage. This pertained to me especially because last weekend I got engaged. I'm excited to get married but I have to admit class made me a bit nervous for the transitions. Especially because I am pretty particular about how I do things and my expectations of others as well. I think the hardest part will just be learning to live with another person and adjusting to their schedule, the things they like, need, and want. Also, finances and budgeting can be difficult as well. I've tried budgeting my whole life but I still suck at it. I have a lot of preparing to do to make this easier that's for sure!